On Dating: Statements vs. Questions

A first date. I take the approach that it’ll either be a good date or a good story. (Or I suppose if you’re lucky, both.) A win-win, if you think about it. More often than not, bad dates make for the best stories. And so much of what can make a date go downhill faster than a skier in a grand slalom is bad conversation–or worse–no conversation at all.

Last week, a good friend of mine–and fellow dating blogger–got to talking about this. About what kind of advice we give friends, readers, and in his case clients, about how to get through those getting-to-you-know chats without losing your date’s interest, or losing interest yourself.

He said, “Guys should talk about themselves.” I insisted, “Men should ask more questions and avoid their narcissistic rants.”

Lo and behold, a chat over coffee turned into a He Said/She Said article over on his blog, GKDating.com. So what’s better in date conversation: statements that reveal your personality and awesomeness? Or questions asked of your date to show you’re listening and interested? Here’s what we deduced.